24 Mar Why You Keep Failing (And How to Fix It)
Ever feel like no matter how hard you try, you’re stuck?
You set goals. You get excited. You grind for a bit…
Then something happens. You lose momentum. You fall off.
And suddenly, you’re back to square one.
🔹 Still out of shape.
🔹 Still not making progress.
🔹 Still watching others succeed while you’re stuck.
Why does this keep happening? And more importantly—how do you fix it?
I’ve been there. Over and over. But after years of trial, error, and frustration, I realized something:
👉 You don’t need more motivation. You need a system.
Motivation Is a Lie
Most people think they fail because they lack motivation.
They wait for motivation to strike.
They say: “I’ll start when I feel ready.”
But motivation is unreliable. It comes and goes.
The people who actually succeed? They don’t rely on motivation.
They have systems.
What’s a System?
A system is what keeps you moving even when you don’t feel like it.
📌 Motivation says: “I don’t feel like training today.”
📌 A system says: “It’s Monday. That means training. No debate.”
📌 Motivation says: “I’ll start my diet next week.”
📌 A system says: “I meal-prepped. My food is ready. No excuses.”
Success isn’t about doing things when you feel like it. It’s about building habits that make success automatic.
How to Build a System That Works
Want to actually follow through? Do this:
1️⃣ Set Non-Negotiables – Pick a few key habits and make them rules, not choices.
2️⃣ Remove Friction – Make the right choice easy. (Pack your gym bag the night before.)
3️⃣ Track Your Wins – Progress fuels momentum. Write down every rep, session, or step forward.
The secret to long-term success?
Don’t wait for motivation. Make success inevitable.
Why Most People Stay Stuck
Most people don’t fail because they lack time, ability, or discipline.
They fail because they overcomplicate everything.
They try to:
❌ Train six times a week after years of doing nothing.
❌ Fix their entire diet overnight.
❌ Follow some “hardcore” routine that’s unsustainable.
They jump in too hard, burn out, and quit.
📌 The solution? Simplify.
Start small. Build momentum. Let progress keep you going.
We All Have Time (But Do You Have Priorities?)
The number one excuse I hear is:
“I don’t have time to train.”
But out of 150+ people I know who train—only 5 are professional athletes.
Most have full-time jobs. Families. Kids. Responsibilities.
And they still train.
📌 Why? Because they made it a priority.
If something matters, you make time. If it doesn’t, you make excuses.
Ask yourself:
- If you quit training, what will you do instead?
- Will you binge-watch Netflix? Scroll social media? Waste time?
- Or will you build something worthwhile?
The answer is clear.
The Power of Identity (Who Are You?)
For years, I was a yes-man.
I thought saying no would disappoint people. So I spread myself thin, saying yes to everything—except my own goals.
Then I realized something:
If you don’t respect your time, no one else will.
People mocked me when I started training.
❌ “Why do you train so much?”
❌ “Are you preparing for the Olympics?”
❌ “You never have time for anything.”
Then something changed.
I stayed consistent. And over time, the same people who mocked me started saying:
✔ “I wish I never stopped training.”
✔ “Man, you look strong—can you train me?”
✔ “I should have stayed disciplined like you.”
I didn’t change for them. I changed for me.
📌 How? I shifted my identity.
I wasn’t “trying” to train—I was an athlete.
I wasn’t “trying” to eat clean—I was someone who took care of his body.
If you see yourself as someone who trains, learns, and improves daily, your actions will follow.
How to Never Miss a Session
You need to make missing training more painful than showing up.
Here’s how:
📌 Commit publicly. (Tell people what you’re doing—now you’re accountable.)
📌 Bet money on it. (If you skip training, donate $50 to a cause you hate.)
📌 Set your environment up for success. (Have your gear ready. Schedule workouts like meetings.)
If you make it easy to train and hard to skip, consistency takes care of itself.
“Consistency is often more important than motivation alone when striving for success.”
Final Thought: Systems > Motivation
If you’re waiting for motivation, you’ve already lost.
Discipline is what keeps you going long after motivation dies.
💡 Discipline beats motivation.
💡 Consistency beats intensity.
💡 Systems beat willpower.
Now—what’s ONE habit you can commit to daily?
Drop a comment and let me know.
P.S. Read my other 2 blog posts that talk about similar topics if you haven’t already:
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